Choosing to Cheat

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I’m just starting to read Choosing to Cheat

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by Andy Stanley.  I haven’t gotten very far into it, but I have found a lot of what Andy Stanley writes and says to be very helpful in my ministry.

The basic message of this short book is that many of us have to0 much to do, and we often find that between work and family something has to give or be left undone.  Nothing new or surprising but near the beginning of the book Andy articulated this conflict in a way that I hadn’t clearly thought about before.

When work and family present us with too much to be done: “What it boils down to is this: Someone is going to get cheated.  Worse yet, someone is going to feel cheated.  Someone is going to feel as if I am not giving them what they deserve or need.”

When I am in triage mode and have to decide what’s going to  be left undone, I usually think of it in terms of tasks.

“What item on my to-do list doesn’t get checked off?”  “What activity at home am I going to have to miss?”

But maybe it is more helpful to think in terms of people.

“Who am I going to disappoint?  Which person is going to feel cheated or ignored because I didn’t do <insert task or activity here>?”

In some ways, that’s a pretty negative way to think about it.  But in other ways, it may help me make different and healthier decisions.

2 thoughts on “Choosing to Cheat

  1. Hmm I’ve never really thought about it that way either. Pretty neat how two people can see the same thing and have very different takes on it.

  2. The worst part about if your family feels cheated is how you end up feeling about the fact that they feel that way.

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